Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love
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| Rating | : | 4.26 (678 Votes) |
| Asin | : | 1469000741 |
| Format Type | : | paperback |
| Number of Pages | : | 6 Pages |
| Publish Date | : | 2015-09-12 |
| Language | : | English |
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. Our individual attachment styles are thus, they conclude, hardwired into our brains. Teaching readers communication skills to breach these differences, the authors stress that people have very different capacities for intimacy, and that partners must ensure each other™s emotional well-being. From Publishers Weekly According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Levine and social psychologist Heller, one™s adult romantic partnerships have patterns similar to those one has as a child with one™s parents. Focusing on three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant), the authors explain the biological facts behind our relationship needs, teach readers how to identify their own and loved ones™ attachment styles, and warn of the emo
Paul McCloud said Should be required reading!. This book really should be required reading for anyone BEFORE they get into a relationship! I've recommended this book to many friends now and every time I recommend the book I make a joke about how humbling it was to read this book. Let me explain.I've always considered myself, like most people probably do, to be a complicated, layered individualunable to boxed in or defined by a particular group or belief system!.then I read this book. Never before had I stumbled upon a psychological model that better described my actions, both in and out of the relationship contex. "Eye-opening overview and introduction, but simplistic if you crave in-depth information." according to AM. I have been in therapy on and off with different providers for almost Eye-opening overview and introduction, but simplistic if you crave in-depth information. I have been in therapy on and off with different providers for almost 3 decades, and been in many failed relationships. Yet not one therapist ever mentioned the words "adult attachment theory" to me until I decided to see a new therapist at age 55. My new therapist recommended this book in my first session and it opened my eyes to what really happens in relationships. However, it is a somewhat simplistic book. It is very accessible to a broad audience, but leaves a lot of unanswered questions, including why we are the way we are and what we might do about it. I read . decades, and been in many failed relationships. Yet not one therapist ever mentioned the words "adult attachment theory" to me until I decided to see a new therapist at age 55. My new therapist recommended this book in my first session and it opened my eyes to what really happens in relationships. However, it is a somewhat simplistic book. It is very accessible to a broad audience, but leaves a lot of unanswered questions, including why we are the way we are and what we might do about it. I read . Biased views on attachment styles Like some other reviewers, I found this book surprisingly biased against avoidant people and very sympathetic toward anxious types. I would think that a neuroscientist and social psychologist would show less bias. That being said, there was a lot of interesting and helpful material covered about the different attachment styles.
Amir lives in New York City.Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it is in this context, while working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. . is an adult, child, an
Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes. "Secure" people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. F. Attachment theory forms the basis for many best-selling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships - until now. Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: "anxious" people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. It also offers a wealth of advice on how to navigate relationships more wisely, given a listener's attachment style and that of his or h